Children should always expect from their parents love and care. But what if the parents are toxic? how would you feel. If I told you that. in 2008 the administration of Children and Families in the US Department of Health and Human Services reported that more than 50,000 children were officially counted as victims of emotional abuse. whether hurtful words are intended to cause pain or not they can leave marks and memories from a short time to a lifetime hurtful remarks can come from loved ones such as parents and the psychological and emotional damage can be detrimental to a lot of people especially their children the way parents raise their children and behave around them sets up the basic ground which builds their personality and self-esteem, so how do you know if a parent or caretaker is toxic? Here are eight things toxic parents say that can affect a child’s life.
- Offensive words towards their appearance: You’re ugly too fat too short or too skinny, or you have ugly hair degrading a child based on their appearance will likely only increase their physical insecurity and worry about their body image. This could lead to serious emotional issues such as eating disorders parents are supposed to teach their children how to love themselves no matter how they look on the outside
- Provocative questions towards actions: like why do you act so weird why do you walk that way chew that way move or talk that way. Children tend to believe anything their parents say so sarcastic questions or remarks like these may make the child feel like there’s something wrong with them. This makes it very hard for the child to be themselves around people even during their adult and they may have MB trapped by the discomfort and fear that others may laugh at them or notice the flaws that they’re toxic parents made up for them.
- Selfish wishes: I wish you were never born I wish I had an abortion I regret having you I wish you were a different child parents should never say something like this to a child it’ll make them feel like they weren’t supposed to exist in this world in the first place, and that they don’t deserve to be alive these remarks are so harmful to a child to a human in general they diminished their whole sense of identity which can lead to self-harm and early depression instead parants should make them feel loved and valued
- Making the child feel like a burden: You cost me too much money it’s so hard to take care of you having you exhausts me, if a parent says this to their child the child will feel like a burden it’ll cause them to unconsciously hide their needs feelings and problems just to avoid the wrath of the parent considering that Nemours a non-profit children’s health care system reported that lack of love and affection or materialistic things are some of the causes for some children to lean on stealing and being abusive
- Unhealthy comparisons: Why don’t you like your sibling cousin are the other kids the other kids are better than you. This will reduce a child’s self-esteem substantially and makes them think that they’ll never be good enough no matter how hard they try, also comparing siblings with one another only promotes an unhealthy relationship between them this will cause them to feel jealousy and resentment towards each other siblings should be equally given the right to build their own independent identities
- Verbally abusive words are statements: You’re stupid useless you’re a loser or you’ll never make it absolute remarks like this will damage the child’s self-esteem it’s important that parents encourage their children into believing in themselves
- Threatening abandonment: I’ll leave you I’ll put you aside you’ll wake up and never find me I’ll just disappear this will cause a child to have abandonment issues barring that people they love will leave them because of who they are when a child grows up this believe will be unconsciously ingrained in their mind they’ll be unable to trust future relationships for fear of them leaving
- Empty promises: If you do this I’ll buy you that or I’ll take you there next time but then they don’t do it when a parent makes promises that they don’t keep it breaks the child’s trust it makes the child feel betrayed making fake promises is an excellent way to teach a child how not to trust others in life to conclude even though words aren’t physically harmful they can be extremely harmful to the psyche and emotional well-being childhood is an essential chapter in every human’s life our childhood builds our personalities behaviors and beliefs have you experienced any of these forms of abuse? How do you feel about them? do you know someone who has?